Friday, May 16, 2014

chandler turns one


Better late than never, since Chandler's first birthday was September 12!  We had her party on September 14, surrounded by family and friends.  It was a glorious day and my cup runneth over with all the love that everyone has for our precious girl.  As always, she was the center of attention, loving every bit of it!  And can we say that sister LOVED HER CAKE and wasn't bashful about digging right in!  Chandler has been through more her first year of life than some people go through in their entire life...she has taught me so much and continues to teach me about not sweating the small stuff and loving every minute life has to offer.  She truly is a gift straight from God and that shows in her huge, contagious grins.

Look who's one!!
Being one is fun!
For me?!?
Birthdays are so much fun!
Who cares about the gifts, when I can eat the paper?!
Chandler is wondering why Marley got in the picture, too!
CHEESE!
Cake for breakfast, I think I will!
So, yeah they STILL fight over this car, but Chandler is bigger and sassier now!
Our sweet cousin Jillian made her cake and it was PERFECT!!!
This little ladybug loves cake!!!
I hate that I am just now blogging about her special day, but it was a wonderful time with many memories made!!

until next time,
Megan

Thursday, March 20, 2014

spring break 2014 and 3:21

Well, our spring break wasn't the best ever, in fact I demand a re-do!!  It all started with a trip to Stat Care for me on the Saturday before spring break with a diagnosis of strep throat.  So, Ms. Kathy scooped the girls up so I could rest and not spread anymore germs.  Madeline ran a low grade fever on and off while she was there, but never felt bad.  Monday morning she woke up covered in a rash, so we went down the list of possible things that could have broken her out.  Finally, my mom looked in the back of her throat and it was so inflamed!!  So away we went BACK to Stat Care and she had strep and scarlet fever!  Yep, fun fun!  We had a lot of pajama parties/breakfast in bed/lounge days...  We took it easy pretty much all week.  Friday morning, Chandler decides she is going to start wheezing, so I called the doctor's office and they assured me that she would be okay with benadryl and scheduled us an appointment for Monday afternoon.  We hurriedly got ready and went shopping in McComb with Grammy..and I don't even like shopping all that much but was just about to go stir crazy in our house!  We enjoyed our day, even though the girls came home with lots of goodies and Grammy and I came home with what we went to town with!
styling in her daddy's boots
We knew she was sick when she was still and wanted to snuggle :(
Going on a cruise, to see Mickey Mouse or to the beach might have been more fun, but with these two smiling faces, anywhere can be fun!!
Madeline "wrote" a letter to Ariel.. I will let you know if she writes her back!
She insisted on this hat and Grammy insisted on getting it!
Just chilling while shopping..her legs were actually propped up most of the time! ha
Fashionista!  She must get that from her Shimmy, she certainly doesn't get it from her Mama!

Saturday, the girls and I did some grocery shopping then took naps.  Chandler slept about three hours, which is unusual for her and woke up with a 103 fever and just acted like she didn't feel good.  Now we have been fortunate to have never had to take either one of the girls to the ER, but I couldn't get her fever to break and just didn't feel right about not taking her.  Kris was working so he met us there and Ms. Kathy came and got Madeline...and I didn't want her to have to leave, especially since she had been so sweet and we were enjoying our last day of spring break together, but I also knew she didn't need to be in the ER, either!  After some motrin, a chest x-ray (that was clear), and a breathing treatment, you wouldn't have believed that she was sick by the way she was waving and blowing kisses to everyone!  Well, those darn oxygen sats (if you don't remember my hate for the O2 sats, then re-read the heart surgery posts) kept dropping below 90, which is a no-no.  I had just messaged Kimberly and told her they weren't keeping us when the doctor came back in and said that they were admitting her.  I can't really tell you what else he said cause I was in shock!!  I so wasn't expecting to hear that!  Basically, she has bad bronchitis and low sats.  Anyway, they got the IV started in her foot which Chandler was none to happy about and got us up to the 4th floor.  Kris ran home and got some stuff while Chandler got another breathing treatment and some steroids.  Hyper is not the word for Chandler and it was well past her bedtime which probably made it even worse!!  She was literally banging her IV line against the side of the crib (that looked more like a cage)!  They gave her the treatments every three hours without fail and in between the treatments, the IV was beep, beep, beeping and they were coming in to check her vitals, which meant check her temperature....Rectally!!!  So, we had a party at 3 am and didn't get much, if any, rest that night.  Also, low muscle tone is mentioned as one of the main characteristics of people with Down syndrome, but let's just be clear that sister was fighting with all her might against the first couple of breathing treatments, so much so that she stood completely up on the bed and I got many powerful kicks in my stomach.  And during our late night partying, she was crawling around that bed like a champ! :)  I wasn't sure if those tantrums were due to "stubbornness" from Down syndrome or if it was from her Daddy!  heehee
This is right before she acted like she was about to loose her mind!
This cute face kept me from going to the Looney house!
FINALLY asleep and snuggling with her mama.
Sassafras ready for church and her visit to check on sissy.

Sometime in the night, her sats dropped below 90, while she was sleeping, mind you, so when they checked them again, they were fine.  But anyway, due to that, the doc wanted to keep her Sunday night, too.  Um, okay, let me get this straight..you want an 18-month-old to stay in an unfamiliar place, only receiving breathing treatments every three hours, with her foot bandaged with so much tape to keep the IV needle in it and her crazy, sleep deprived bulldog of a mama, to stay for ONE MORE NIGHT?!?!?!?  Being the rule follower I am and wanting to do what's right for Chandler, I obeyed the doctor and we stayed another night.  We were able to get some sleep though and that made all the difference in the world!  In the meantime, we had lots of sweet visitors to pass the time, and big sissy even had to get in the bed with her!

About 11:00 on Monday, we raced home for me to shower and nap and Chandler to sleep for four hours!!  The doctor prescribed a nebulizer for us to be able to give the albuterol at home, and wanted us to follow up with her pediatrician on Wednesday.  Oh and have I mentioned that Kris will be in Jackson for a class all week until Thursday night?!?  Yep, it doesn't just rain in the Smith house but it pours!!  But without both sets of grandparents, Grammy, Papa J, Nana, and Pops, we wouldn't have made it through all the sicknesses or when life gets crazy in general...so I would like to give them a big shout out and let them know how much their willingness to help is appreciated from the bottom of mine and Kris's hearts!!  We are very blessed to have ya'll as parents and the girls are doubly blessed to have ya'll as GRANDparents!

At her visit to her doctor, he prescribed her with asthma.  Which her daddy had when he was little and it is genetic.  He gave her the "three strike rule" by saying that she has had these symptoms at least three times as well as being swabbed for RSV three times and not having it, and if it were true bronchitis, the albuterol alone would have had her sounding better than she was.  He gave us some Pulmicort to give with breathing treatments and some oral steroids.  Hyper/aggression here we come again!!  He also thinks she has allergies, which he gave us Singulair to help with that and the asthma.  He wants to see her back in a week.  It is so nice to finally have an answer to her sickness and I am so glad.  No, I don't like that she has asthma, but it is manageable and somewhat preventable when she shows early signs of distress (for example, this crazy southwest Mississippi weather when it's cold enough to snow one day and hot enough to swim the next), but we are going to roll with the punches and do what we have to to make sure both girls get whatever it is that they may need to stay healthy...  With that being said, spring break might have been full of sickness and not a whole lot of "fun," however, I thoroughly enjoyed my time home with the girls and cannot wait until the summer!

Chandler having Down syndrome is really just a sliver of our "normal" but crazy lives; however, we are all about promoting awareness and making sure that others understand that even though it may seem a little scary because you don't understand it, it really is a blessing too!!  March 21st (3:21) is World Down syndrome day and what a better day to tell people about what an impact this has made on our lives...Chandler's infectious smile and sweet, wet kisses will melt ANYONE'S heart that meets her.  Her magical chromosome makes her personality truly magical, and in turn Madeline is magical without an extra chromosome.  The Good Lord has blessed our lives with two perfect daughters and by having them, we have met so many people that otherwise wouldn't be a part of our lives.  Something (someone) was missing in mine, Kris's and Madeline's lives and we just didn't know who or what it was..  Please join us in promoting awareness on World Down syndrome day by wearing blue, yellow, crazy socks, or whatever you feel led to do, because I can promise you that once you have met someone like our Chandler or our many, many friends like her, they will steal your heart forever and impact you in a way you never saw coming...  We bought shirts that say, "Stay calm, it's just an extra chromosome" and how fitting that phrase is in the scheme of things!  Family, friends and even complete strangers have been so super accepting of her and that in itself makes us super proud...as I've said before she is her biggest advocate!

'nuf said!!
Saturday, some of us will be running, others walking, some strolling, being pushed, and some of us (ME) will be trying to stay upright and breathing haha, nonetheless we will be advocating Down syndrome with the 2nd annual 5K Run Up for Downs in Jackson.  We are so looking forward to this event and it always brings tears to my eyes at the amount of people who will be running/walking for our one and only Chandler and our many other friends with DS!  And next Tuesday, March 25, our one and only Madeline will be turning four and I just don't want to talk about it..where in the world has the time gone?!?  She can make her daddy and I proud, mad, happy, frustrated... all in a matter of minutes but we wouldn't trade her for anything!!  She is the best big sissy ever and we are blessed God chose us to be her parents.  But if you see me next week and I'm sad, know that my big girl is getting bigger and I don't have to like it.  Please keep Kris (and us) in your prayers, as he is gone next week too and that he will pass the class and not miss us too much! haha

until next time,
Megan

Monday, February 17, 2014

happy heart day


Valentine's Day is not a day that I am too fond of, and yes I mean that and am not just saying it!!  It's nice to be reminded that I am loved when it's not expected.  Any who, Kris gets out of this day by just giving a card (but let's not forget my birthday is the 19th!)  So, Valentine's Day now has an entirely different meaning in our family...it's determined to make me like it someway! haha

On February 14, 2012, we found out for sure that our family of three was growing to four and told our parents with a special "gift" by telling them with Madeline's shirt saying "this princess is going to be a big sister."
didn't look big enough to be a BIG sister!
yay!

On February 14, 2013, Chandler had her pre op appointment for her surgery that following day.  February 14th and 15th now have true meanings of "heart" days!!  Looking back at pictures from those days just one short year ago literally makes me cringe, thinking how on earth did we make it through such a hard time?!  As I look at Chandler now, "crawling" "talking" laughing and smiling all the time, it is so hard to believe where she was one year ago.  Kris and I thought we would never get to hold her again and would still be scooping her like ice cream instead of picking her up underneath her arms.  I am a firm believer that the Good Lord above got us through those times and to where we are today!  We surely felt the prayers and His strength during that scary time as we do today.  If you would have asked me what would Chandler be doing one year from open heart surgery, I don't think I would've been able to say ALL that she has accomplished since then.  If I can give any advice to mothers of children going into surgery, it is this:  take it one day at a time and the best is yet to come, you are also a lot stronger than you think you are!  Clearly I am, cause just thinking back and looking at pictures makes me weak in the knees...  But we all survived and Chandler rocks her scar like the rock star that she is!!  Even Madeline is proud of it, saying periodically, "Mama sissy's bobo looks so much better!"  You are right sweet girl, it does...

I would also like to thank the super fabulous surgeon, cardiologist, nurse practitioners, nurses, respiratory therapists and all the other wonderful people on staff at Blair E. Batson Children's Hospital for treating all of us like Chandler was part of their family!!!  Also to our friends and family who took time out of their lives to show us how important Chandler was to them..we will be forever grateful!

Just a little stroll down memory lane, and yes some are very hard to look at, but it just goes to show that every day got better and she slowly started looking like herself again, plus she gained her appetite too!!

blood work day :(
this is what we thought about waiting
she was so calm you would've never known she was hungry
STILL a thumb sucker to this day!! 
in PICU right after surgery, still on vent
no ventilator
yep, this is the way they transported her to the floor
settled in her room
FINALLY got to hold her, tubes and all!!
no oxygen!!  (but was short-lived until Daddy fixed the darn O2 thing on her toe!)
sleeping beauty
Can we go home now?!
VERY CONCERNED SISTER!!
and finally there's her sweet smile..
This was taken just 8 short months after her surgery and scar is barely visible...but who's looking at her scar when all you see is a beautiful, smiling face?!?

loving our heart day,
Megan

Monday, January 27, 2014

it's been a while...




I know it's been a while so this may be (a little) lengthy!!  And we all know that I like to talk...speaking of talking...our sweet almost 4-year-old got a "yellow face" at school last week for..wait for it...TALKING!!!!!  Her teacher said she would not hush when asked and then just got louder and louder!!  Who in the world does she belong to?!?!  It was kinda hard to get on to her when we have been wanting her to come out of her shell...well she has alright!!  We have since talked about the importance of listening to adults and I apologized to Ms. Cadessa :)

It has been a whirl wind for the Smiths since the last update, so let me go back to October.  October 12th was the National Down syndrome Buddy Walk in Jackson.  We supported our "buddy" with Chandler's Champs..if they would have given an award for the most supporters, Chandler would have won hands down!!  Oh and one for the cutest shirts that were designed by some of Chandler's biggest fans and my dearest friends/co workers, Sandy, Melanie and Melanie!  It fills my heart (and my eyes) to know so many people love and support our sweet girl..she is promoting awareness far better than I am just by being her!  Papa J placed in his age group and took his buddy along to receive his prize.
way to go!!
the "coach"
whew...worn out!!
the "assistant coach"
Chandler had to get tubes put into her ears, and let's just say Kris and I are glad that we went through heart surgery first (all EIGHT HOURS of it) because this procedure only lasted about 20 minutes!  But don't think that we weren't stressing any less..it's always hard when they take your child back for anything even if it was "minor."  Oh and she was mad as a hornet when I finally got to her...it was quite awful; however, after some juice, a long nap and cuddling with Mama, she was good to go and even jumped when Marley barked that afternoon!!  Poor baby couldn't hear, but she did pass her hearing at her re-check and we praised God for that!
FEED ME!!!
I feel so much better!
Madeline insisted on being Rapunzel bride for Halloween so Grammy bought it for her with all of us thinking we would never get her to take it off...well, she showed us and wore it for all of five minutes and absolutely REFUSED to wear it again!!!  Chandler repeated Madeline's first Halloween costume and was the (second) cutest little smiling cow there ever was!!  In the middle of Halloween festivities Madeline came down with hand, foot and mouth disease, so needless to say there are no pictures of the two of them together.  Poor little thing looked and felt terrible!!
Halloween 2013
Boo!!
silly girl
We were honored to do an interview for the Pulse magazine, a free local mag, which may not be a big deal to some, but to us it was!  I, of course, was a nervous wreck, but it turned out just perfect and we were so pleased!  Big sissy never left little sissy's side..hope that never changes!

The Smith girls are already famous!
two hams!
we have lots of love to share..
great article and pics
November brought Kris's hunting trip to Illinois that resulted in a big buck to go on the wall (of the man cave).  He was super excited and so were we!!  He was gone on our 5 year anniversary; however, he had already bought my gift before he left, hid it in his closet and had me get it on the 22nd.  Lots of thought and love went into that...just one more reminder that I have a good man!  We celebrated Thanksgiving (my favorite holiday) with both families and I even learned how to make Kris's Mamaw Dot's cornbread dressing for about 50 folks!!  Can we say an all day affair, complete with peeling the bottom of the cornbread, peeling celery (!?!) and using white pepper..but it is surely made with lots of time, love and memories. :)
someone was happy, happy, happy!
Thanksgiving 2013
the way they look at each other will melt your heart...
little turkey

Moving on the most wonderful time of the year!!  Christmas was especially magical this year seeing it through the eyes of the girls...Chandler enjoyed herself, even if it was playing with the paper and bows!  Going to get our tree was always fun; however, it broke Madeline's heart when her Daddy cut it down..not sure where that came from, she is just a little sensitive and a whole lot of female!!  But she stayed in awe with anticipation and excitement..asking Santa for a Barbie, Barbie house and Ariel and a book for sissy.  Surprisingly, there were no tears or frowns when they went to see Santa!  Shimmy and Madeline rode in the Thompson parade with Papa J in his (viper red) El Camino.  She was all smiles riding in there, unlike her Mama was when he came to pick her up from school in it with a matching red face to boot! haha  You would've thought that Chandler was in the parade smiling and waving to EVERYONE who passed by.  Soooo much fun!!  Santa did in fact bring Madeline a "barbie" and "barbie house" but they were just smaller and all of the little mermaid characters, which she is OBSESSED with now!  She now is aspiring to be a "cash register girl" thanks to Pops and Nana's gift and loves to "vacuum" the whole house thanks to Papa J and Grammy's gift! Chandler got a few books and lots of noise makers.  What really warmed our hearts and made us proud was Madeline's interest in baby Jesus and the manger scene..in fact she asked that it stay in her room when we put up the decorations.  As always the Smiths and the Dykes families came together at our house for too many gifts and too much food, but more importantly many more wonderful memories were made.  A couple of weeks after Christmas, Madeline even had Kris to "call" Santa to thank him for all of her gifts..she is so thoughtful and kind (most of the time)!
the perfect tree
Christmas 2013
Daddy's little helper
"I don't want you to cut the tree down!!!"  (DRAMA QUEEN)
big girls!!
the true meaning of Christmas
Santa came!!
Yay for Santa!!
these girls must have been on the nice list!
We even had an elf, Jingles, who had to leave a few "be good" notes!!  "Her's not real,  Her's not looking" was said a lot and Kris and I were surely glad to see her go back to the North Pole!  Maybe Chandler will like her! ha
Hey everybody!!
having fun in the parade
the best presents ever!!
baking cookies for Santa (aka making a big mess for Mama, but precious memories!)
our cookie making boss!
After a quiet New Year's Eve (my how times have changed!), the girls and I headed to Hattiesburg to see the movie Frozen with Shimmy.  This was Madeline's second trip to the movies and Chandler's first.  They were exceptionally well behaved..Chandler waved to the people on the screen, blabbered during the serious, quiet times, and Madeline was mesmerized until it ended and then she cried, of course!  It was a wonderful movie and Ariel got booted from the #1 princess spot...weeell only for a hot minute, but we enjoyed not hearing Ariel, Eric, and the "eagle sea wee" (evil see witch, Ursula) while it lasted!  As always the slumber party at Shimmy's was not very restful but lots of fun!
Chandler looks scared to death but I promise she had a blast..we all did!!
Whew...boy am I tired now! haha But what memories were made that will last a lifetime!  Thanks for reading..hope I didn't put you to sleep and my promise is to do better at updating..we shall see!!

until next time,
Megan